2013年9月12日 星期四

to be happy or not to be happy

心理絕對會影響身理,而最影響心理的,莫過於人事問題
如果做晒呢11件事,係咪就會快樂?係咪就唔會唔舒服?

 

11 Simple Things That Everyone Needs To Be Happy

1. Comfort food.

I put this one first for a reason, and that reason is that comfort food is one of the most basic components of being a happy, well-adjusted human. There is no meeting so soul-suckingly boring that a little pizza won’t make you go out of your way to attend it. There is no emotional wound that cannot be at least temporarily patched up with some hot, crispy chicken nuggets and fries with ranch and honey mustard dipping sauces. There is no amount of critical red-state voting that isn’t eased by a southern breakfast of biscuits, gravy, grits, and sweet tea. Comfort food has leveled up as high as possible in the Healer Class, and we should respect it.

2. Clean sheets.

Man, you just feel gross as shit when you’re on grimy sheets. You feel like a sentient ball of pond scum, temporarily inhabiting a vaguely moist hell that used to resemble your bedroom. It feels like your whole life is falling apart, and the second you change them to those fresh, fluffy, cool-and-warm-at-the-same-time new sheets, everything is back where it should be. You sleep like an angel on a cloud of success.

3. A breeze.

If there is one state of affairs that reminds us just how completely our overall dispositions depend on our atmospheric surroundings, it is being trapped somewhere that is hot as hell and getting nary a breeze to cool your fevered brow. If it’s pushing 100 outside and you are stuck in a pre-war apartment with not even an oscillating fan, you might as well just kill yourself, because you are in for the night of the most pure agony humans can withstand before they spontaneously burst into flames.

4. A hot shower.

Hot showers, especially when you’re achy or dirty, feel like getting kissed all over your body by a thousand tiny Ryan Goslings. It’s being baptized by the Cleanliness Gods in your own apartment, and it is an irreplaceable necessity to happiness.

5. Alone time.

All of the thrilling social activities in the world mean absolutely nothing if you can’t punctuate them with some nice time to just unwind, watch your weird-ass “me time” videos on YouTube, and be a total slob in your underwear.

6. Someone who remembers with you.

You need at least one person to discuss your memories, your experiences, and the person you used to be with. If you don’t have anyone who also remembers certain periods in your life, it can start to feel as though they never happened at all (or that they don’t count). But when you start wandering down memory lane hand-in-hand with someone, it is the emotional equivalent of someone bringing out a surprise ice cream cake and two enormous spoons. You get to just feel all the warm fuzzies, and make each other remember stuff, and giggle over inside jokes. It’s the best.

7. A nice wake-up.

For some of us, including myself, mornings will never be that nice. But if you don’t at least get a few minutes to groggily look at your phone, put something resembling food in your body, and get a little coffee or tea, your day is doomed. When you wake up in an incoherent panic and you have to run out the door wearing the first thing that wasn’t stained with the blood of your enemies, you know that you are just going to feel a little bit like shit all day long.

8. Good internet.

Having something to do on the internet and watching in agony as each page takes a full 30 seconds to load is amongst the most visceral frustrations we can experience. It’s the kind of thing to make you rip your laptop off its cord and throw it against the wall because you would rather do all of your communication by carrier pigeon from now on.

9. Purchases that are just for you.

Come on, you need to get something for yourself every now and again. If you don’t occasionally treat yourself to a bag of bulk candy, or a new Forever 21 dress that appears to be made out of Saran Wrap and recycled cardboard, or a movie for one in the middle of a Saturday afternoon, what is life about?

10. A comfy sweater.

There is no feeling that makes you feel more safe, more comfortable, more deliciously warm and cozy than pulling a sweater around you, over your palms and up onto your neck, until you are less a human being and more an anthropomorphic ball of wool. It’s like being hugged by your clothes.

11. At least one person who just gets it.

Whether it’s the friend who doesn’t need any social issues explained to them (and who will never make horribly oppressive jokes because they don’t believe in being “PC”), or the person who is just as obsessed with that one book/show/movie/band as you are and does not matter one bit if you want to talk about it for an entire five-hour hangout session, we all need the person who “gets it.” You don’t need a group of them, you just need the one, and your sanity will be intact. Without them, you will begin to slowly question whether or not your entire reality is a figment of your imagination. Your happiness is always reinforced by their existence.

2013年9月3日 星期二

我的快樂生日

17-8-2013

清心組和火伴合組聖經問答比賽
之前聽Simpson 講小組搞聖經問答比賽,已好想玩,兼可以set 個target 給自己讀聖經,便提議搞這合組活動,雖然我的組員們沒有溫書 (orz),但相信大家都好享受一起玩、一起笑的相聚。
我真的不知道這是「同一屋簷下」的pose囉,堅無睇過,印象中好悶。
玩完有7,8 月之星的切蛋糕環節



29-8-2013

家庭慶祝
最重要是同家人慶祝,媽媽盡力整港式西餐,有肉醬意粉、牛扒、豬扒、雞扒和一碟生菜(!!!)
最後當然要唱生日歌和一起切蛋糕啦
我知道,家人永遠是最疼愛自己的,今年發生的不愉快和受的傷,他們都知道明白,爸爸媽媽都知道有些事情不能勉強,某人當然hurt過我啦,自己亦有缺點和不成熟,但我會從中學習和成長,生日願望是希望一家人健康快樂,我都快d 搵好男人,哈哈。

30-8-2013

應該是我請你食飯,不好意思要你破費了!!
好好味的pancake,當是birthday pancake了,哈哈。
多謝海綿!除了豐富的晚餐,還有好屬靈和深入的交流,
看到你在追求神方面好努力,加油!

31-8-2013

正日啦!
黃婷婷本來提議了一些活動,但時間上難配合,加上聖靈提醒(?),這是星期六,星期六本來就是我返教會的日子,怎能因為生日,而把神放到次位呢。

有位舊同事的whatsapp status 是 'more of God, less of me',這句突然深深感動我。無錯,我要如常地過星期六,如常地團契事奉、崇拜和小組。因為無神就無我,我更要將生日這天給神,以紀念祂的恩惠。

剛好當天是大衛團升團禮,以及最後一次合團,意義重大。

國寶分享時,表示不捨得大衛團,哭成淚人。我聽到眼濕濕,好心痛她要離開心愛的團友,也怕她感受不到約拿單團的好,在團契中會孤單。到Ruby分享時,又好感動,我想到開始與約拿單團友建立關係,想到他們的可愛,想到其實自己未有好切身地關心他們,將來我離開時,大家可能不會不捨得我..

非常煽情的分享後,是落差很大的開心食物分享,之前已知道有升團蛋糕,慶祝大衛團友加入約拿單,怎料承恩大叫「今日是CYL生日啊」,我已立時給他「停止」的手勢,因這蛋糕是給團友的,不是我,俏恩也高呼捉承恩去打,心想:「承恩,你的心意我收到,但主角不是我啊」

結果,蛋糕被捧出來時,大家唱生日歌,智障的我還以為:「原來今天是其他人生日」,還跟著一起唱,直到蛋糕來到我面前,才意識到是我的生日蛋糕,眼淚禁不住湧出來。

之前先立志「more of God, less of me」,自己想把「自己」遺忘,自己不是最重要,神才是最大。想真點,這立志很自虐,很痛若。萬萬想不到,當我決定放下自己,我親愛的團友和弟兄姊妹沒有遺忘我。好像一個一直咬緊牙關去面對困難和孤單,而弄至滿身傷痕和疲憊的人,在飢寒之時,被帶到一個溫暖舒適的家,被擁抱和安慰。

你話,是否勁感動!?
這張喊到眼腫面腫的照片,對於淚線長期乾涸的我很難得。當天喊完的感覺最:爽!
很久沒哭過,能發洩出來很爽!


朋友的小組剛好慶祝9月之星,我就厚著面皮說我都是生日之星,嘿嘿!
這是自家製的柚子蛋糕,好好味!


1-9-2013

之前思前想後,到底如何慶祝,其實我只想同親愛的人慶祝,打算搞個party,請我的朋友們來,不論是那個單位,教會、救恩、慈航...,都一起相聚,可能神知我心意,XXL的嘉俊鮮有地答應出席,Simpson 和我都好興奮,打算把大型派對改為XXL re-u 開組,主角是嘉俊。

所以跟已邀請的朋友道歉,因嘉俊離開教會一段時間,又近乎沒有出席XXL聚會,想籍此多與他傾談,如果太多人,怕他不習慣。

有相有真相,我們玩得好癲!
我的生日願望是大家更愛主
何解有這生日願望?哈哈,我都不知道,主知道 :)
XXL 組員都好好,真的好喜歡你們,我跟你們whatsapp 比現在的小組還要多。
不但能喪玩喪笑,更能與你們交心,一切都要感謝神。




狂歡後,約了一班好姊妹食飯
是否人大了,要求的都不一樣呢?收到朋友的生日禮物,我會很不好意思,覺得要人家破費,自己又不是誰誰誰,只是個普通人。
只要大家願意聚下,坦誠分享,開開心心,就十分滿足了。




今年,切了很多蛋糕,喜歡同吃一餅的感覺,很團結似的,
也許了許多願望,新一年,交給祂了!


美味家庭菜

25-8-2013

食了好多,最開心食了兩隻生蠔和少少蝦刺身,無敏感發作,yeah!


c恆,點解你由朝玩到晚都不會眼睏??

2013年8月16日 星期五

弟兄

聽到有弟兄講:幾年前無想過同你做到朋友
另一弟兄說:一睇你就知你講粗口啦
又有姊妹表示:你外表nice,但內裡......(我猜她想說我嘴賤,其實我份人直接之嘛)

無論哪一面,都是我。
年紀一把,其實還在自我認識中,
初認識我的人,大抵會覺得我好容易傾計。其實有心social,傾計有幾難,能談得深入才算交心嘛。
交心的人是有的,但貴精不貴多。
內裡的我有時都好冷淡,也有負面情緒,總之就好豐富,哇哈哈
多樣化到連我都摸不清自己!

曾有人用負面的說法形容我好「男仔頭」,此事也hurt了我好一陣子,但我愛這樣的我,一個像弟兄的姊妹,因為我是神創造並寶貴的女兒,我的價值不會因人的評價而動搖!

約拿單 Bible Camp 2013

今年summer camp 主題是認識聖經人物,3日2夜查7次經,的確不容易,但神的話夠吸引,大家都享受其中 (應該吧)

晚會聽到團友分享十分感動,連我都落淚了。每人背境都不同,各有要面對的困難,雖然會迷惘、會軟弱,但見你們努力地成長,更學習依靠神,感覺很欣慰,你們都成熟長大了!

他們實在太可愛,夠真誠,夠坦白,夠開放,我鍾意~~鍾意到想每個都抱一下!

之前已下定決心,下年要退出團契,讓疲乏的身心休息一年,並尋找事奉方向。
去完camp,發現很不捨得大家,希望下年能放半年假,再重新投入導師的事奉,但還要多禱告,看神還會開甚麼的路。

好多好多好多好多自拍 
我們不做低頭人,各人食飯時交出電話,疊在桌上,惟獨的神.............-.-
你們是我的好弟兄姊妹

敏敏嫁人了

 bb結婚啦!!
認識bb 好多年,妳是我的好姊妹,好像還未接受到妳已為人妻,心情好複雜,仲未適應到,點算呢

別人畫smoky eyes加假眼睫毛,對眼會放電,我就老左10年,兼且對眼大到像妖怪!嗚...
最慘要長註reception,惟有一見熟人就自動退後三尺。



很喜歡這照片,大家未ready,真情流露,還見到腳趾「批踭」Henry,Henry 扮慘叫樣 XD

2013年8月9日 星期五

爽晒

心情老是很不爽,主要是生活中被太多事occupy,沒有空間和時間去hea下
為何時間是我的,卻不由得我去停一停,hea一hea

最近牙醫於上下排牙多加一條鋼線,痛得要死,連睡覺都會痛醒
於是不爽指數又上升了

其實媽媽已經好好,預備了粥給我,也擔心不夠營養,加了一種奇怪的菜在粥裡面,這種菜一煮熟就變得超爛,幾乎每條菜爛到可以黏附和纏繞在我的鋼線上。
這種爛菜好難清潔,用小牙刷只會把它挑得越爛,令它跟鋼線和箍牙的粒粒更緊緊相擁。用水也沖不到,因為我上下排各有兩條鋼線,足以把任何食物牢牢地鎖於牙縫間。

於是我大大地發了一次脾氣

唉,媽媽都好無辜

隔天,媽媽教訓我態度差,而這臭脾氣的女兒剛食完這款粥去刷牙,心情自是不爽,回道:「我係咁架啦,吹咩」

這話說出口的當下,已覺自已好乞人憎,我媽都應該有同感,於是她恨恨地打了我屁股一下,打完後我倆都大笑,笑完又沒事了,我也沒有不爽,(我覺得)她都沒氣我。

媽媽就是有這能力,她知道我從小都硬頸,人家的女兒會嗲爸爸,我沒有,撒嬌不是我個性,
也知道我嘴硬心軟,其實只要小小懲罰,足夠令我萬分內疚